For years I thought I needed to fit into the “bodybuilding” crowd because I competed in a few shows and I was surrounded by super fit people all the time.
In my mind, I wouldn’t have my body just right until my glutes looked a certain way, my shoulders grew or my tummy was a six pack (all the time). If only I had “this” or “that.” Then I’d be happy.
I achieved the look of a 4 or 6 pack, but only after 12 weeks of no cheat meals. Plus, I was doing two a day workouts with an hour of cardio every day (so boring). Even then, I could only maintain that look for a couple of weeks before competition. Then I couldn’t wait to go back to my healthy and much more maintainable lifestyle with a cheat meal or two per week.
How did other people do this? I felt like I was going nuts trying to maintain it all. Coming from a former 50 pound heavier body, this was crazy!
But then, I met some of the people I admired on social media….and they felt the same way about their bodies as I did about mine..and had no problem expressing it.
One compliment to them led into, “Thanks but I’d like to improve……blah blah blah.”
How is that? They had the very results I wanted, yet they were feeling inadequate. What the heck?
I was exhausted with the idea of looking like someone else. And we are all our own worst critics.
I finally realized that there is way more to life than “wishing” your body was something else. I found that no matter how heavy I lifted, my 5’10 long, lean frame would never look like someone who was 5’4 that could put on all this amazing lean muscle. And I’m okay with that.
And there was a HUGE reassurance and feeling of peace with realizing I was okay with that.
I also realized that my hubby loves how I look, heck, even loved me when I was heavier. Instead of just dropping the fitness ball altogether, I refocused my goals on something else. My workouts became centered more around how I would FEEL versus how they would make me LOOK.
Then make the BEST of that. Even if you have a similar physique to that person, schedules and habits play a huge part in results as well. Basically, are you willing to do exactly what they do to get the results they have? Maybe. Maybe not.
Work hard and be your OWN inspiration.
As for me, I just want to have fun, be a good mom and wife. And I love fitness.
Just putting this out there in case you have ever felt this way. Hope it helps someone.